Now you can call her Mrs. Congeniality. Sandra Bullock wed her tattooed beau Jesse James, the star of the Discovery Channel series Monster Garage, in a sunset ceremony Saturday at a ranch north of Santa Barbara, PEOPLE Magazine has learned. Guests at the wedding confirm the pair were married at the 300-acre Folded Hills Ranch in Solvang, Calif. Bullock wore a white lace dress designed by Angel Sanchez. "She looked beautiful," one guest tells PEOPLE. "She was incredibly happy." Bullock's rep, Cheryl Maisel, also confirmed the nuptials to PEOPLE. The two, who had been dating since December 2003, join other high-profile Hollywood couples who have tied the knot in recent surprise ceremonies: Renee Zellweger and Kenny Chesney were married May 9 in the Virgin Islands. Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner exchanged vows June 29 in the Turks and Caicos Islands. James arrived at the ranch Saturday behind the wheel of a giant red monster truck. Meanwhile, most of the 300 guests, including William Shatner, Jamie Lee Curtis, Regina King and Metallica lead singer James Hetfield, were shuttled to the ceremony from hotels in Santa Barbara 45 minutes away, but they weren't told a wedding was happening until around 8 p.m., after they had arrived.
A side effect of growing up surrounded by opera was being surrounded by costumes, and sewing, among other crafts. "My mother had the best costumes," she says. "All my mother's costumes are here in the city. My sister and I just went through all the costumes she had made for operas. I mean, the seamstresses, and the beauty of turn-of-the-century outfits with bustles." And her mother, who died of cancer in 2000, often made her costumes. "My mother was also a great seamstress in that she would make all these amazing clothes, but she would make the matching version for me. And we have them all—every dress from every prom, every event was made by Mother. We'd pick out the pattern, the McCall's pattern. We'd cut it out and pick the fabric. There was never anything we bought for an event until I was a teenager, and still she was making my dresses and I was in misery. But now I am so thankful because I have a closetful of them." Bullock is also thankful for her ability to sew. "When I was living here with my dad on the Upper West Side, before I moved downtown, when I was waitressing, I would buy vintage clothing and tailor it," she says. "Because in Germany, we had to knit and crochet by the first grade. So I would make people sweaters; still do. And you know, essentially I didn't have a lot of money, but I had some cute outfits because I was able to buy something for $11 and make it into the hottest little number."
"People don't understand why someone wouldn't want to be photographed or talked about," says Bullock. "It's got to be so strange to have all these people thinking they know you, when they don't," she says. "The thing that she still does is involve herself in worthwhile causes, and she's still inspiring young kids and writers and people in her community. She cuts out the one element that drives everyone crazy, which is the media and public recognition. She's someone who says, 'Let my book speak for itself.' There's nothing else to say when you write something like that. Nothing." Bullock speaks as the recent target of the media spotlight: SO IN LOVE, shouts one headline on the occasion of their one-year anniversary. There's nothing like a happy (seeming) celebrity marriage to get the gossip pages going about things like, just for instance, babies. The irony of playing a person who is smartly secluded hasn't escaped Sandra Bullock, a person who prides herself on avoiding questions about her personal life, and especially about relationships. "I'm really good at not answering," she says. "The thing about relationships, whether I am talking about my mother or my father or my sister, nine times out of ten I know it'll be misconstrued, and I know it will be quoted, and people will come back and say, 'They said you were a hermaphrodite.' No, I said I was out late last night." Still, it seems safe to say that Bullock is surprised (a) to find herself married—by all accounts she had all but written off the idea—and (b) married to Jesse James. Such surprise developments seem to have taught her to enjoy surprise developments. "Again, you are talking to a recovering control freak," she says. "I mean, I say one thing this week because it applies to life now, and next week all hell could break loose on many levels, on a personal level, on a global level, and everything that I said this week is completely moot."
Sandra, who has been seen hiking in Northern California without her wedding ring and looking somber, is expected to file for divorce later this week. "It's over between Sandra and Jesse. For a while, it looked like she was going to forgive him but not now," a friend told me a few days ago. "But way too much has happened and after spending time alone, Sandra has realized that she deserves better. It's not going to be easy, but she's an amazingly strong lady. Don't worry, she will survive."
While never directly addressing James or the scandal, Bullock certainly spoke of it. She made a statement with: "No matter what you might have seen or heard or read lately, I like what I'm doing and I'm not going anywhere. Speaking of what you might have seen or heard, I wanted to clarify some things: Number one, I'm not dead. Number two, everyone has cellulite, not just me." Bullock continued, saying that the "paparazzi need more flattering lenses. And whoever established the high road and how high it should be should be fired."
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During their marriage, Bullock spoke often of her love for James' children, Sunny in particular, whose mother, Janine Lindemulder, has had ongoing problems with substance abuse and spent time in prison for tax evasion. According to court documents obtained by TMZ, Bullock and James reached a private partition agreement with regard to property purchased during the marriage, and the value of any property not included in the agreement is to be divided equally between the two. It is noted in the filing that all conclusions with regard to the divorce "are based in part on their [Bullock and James] respect and regard for each other."
"They are both newly single and leaning on each other for support," an insider tells me. "Who knows what will happen in the future, but any rumors of them being together and splitting up Ryan's marriage to Scarlett are false." My source adds: "Sandra would never get involved with a married man after what her ex did to her. She has way too much respect for Scarlett, Ryan, the institution of marriage and herself to do that." Although, now that Ryan is a single guy, who knows what will happen? I can't wait to find out.